weekly blog--one for the ages
A friend passed away this week after a 6-year battle with prostate cancer. He was 68 years old and joins two of my childhood friends who also died in the past few years from illness. I have always found grieving difficult. Someone I know, who coincidentally also passed away this week, was an academic who wrote the handbook for professionals that have to deal with this on a daily basis.
There are lots of ways to grieve. One researcher structured the grief process into three phases:
The researcher found that both men and women tend to go through phases one and three. Differences occurred at phase two. There are four coping styles that enable men to take advantage of their natural gifts and talents: remain silent, engage in “Secret Grief”, and take physical and legal action.
Women typically find their place in the world through relationships, which enable them to talk about their hurts, problems and pain, and to be supported and encouraged. Consequently, women tend to be more expressive and emotional about their loss, and they are more likely to look for support from others.
Learn more: https://www.hospicegso.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/Men-Grieving-March-13.pdf
One more thought…with funeral costs averaging from $7,000 to $10,000 or more, on the way back from the funeral my wife and I wondered what one would do if a loved one died and you couldn’t afford to pay for the funeral? Here’s an article that highlights the options: http://www.blackenterprise.com/money/consumer-affairs/when-a-relative-dies-and-you-cant-afford-the-funeral